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Don’t Say You Don’t Have Enough Time

You have exactly the same number of hours a day as Pasteur, Michelangelo, Mother Teresa, Helen Keller, Leonardo da Vinci, Thomas Jefferson, and Albert Einstein.

I just read this on a website that, in spite the few spelling corrections I made, I have quoted word for word.

Time is something we cannot control. Time is just a scale that has been conveniently used to organize schedules for our industrial world. But time becomes irrelevant when life is at hand, save for the simple fact that at the end of a stretch of time our human existences will expire.

I know very well the feeling of setting time related goals for myself and getting anxious and angry that I haven’t completed them, which overwhelms me and then pushes me to abandon the goal entirely.

Step away from a time frame. Set goals but let them be quests, not burdens.

So, you want to write a book? Then write it, whenever and however you can. Scrap paper, the back of envelopes, a computer at the public library, or your girlfriends second computer. When it’s out, it’s out. That is the time for it to be completed, and not a moment too early or late.

Or, perhaps you enjoy the daunting feeling of looking at a days to-do list and the impossibility of it all?

 

Reflection and Mapping

Today is a day for reflection. Today I review my personal goals. I found an old Mission Statement and wrote: “stay sober (except in private)” which I find quite funny. It was under the section titled Keep Healthy. Not to worry, I don’t think I have a problem.

It’s so very interesting to identify how my direction and path have changed. For example, a big chunk of these has always been graduate from university: check.

Now what?

Find what I can learn from people (Why I love them)

To quote from my success factors from early 2009: “I will keep on trying hard, every single day. No matter what it takes, I will not give up. There will be times when I will feel overwhelmed with the tasks at hand, but I will always know that my best is the best I can do, and that I will always put forth my best effort so I will always be doing my best, which is all anybody can expect from me.”

Talking this over with a friend today, the idea of Desire Mapping came up, a slogan Danielle LaPorte uses for motivation. The concept is kind of self explanatory, but so diverse in execution.

How do you map out your desires, or do you just wing it?

The Booty Call

You may be thinking: “what has this got to do with exercise and mind.” I don’t blame you, it’s a fairly obscure topic, but I think that touching on it here will hopefully open your mind up to the world we live in.

The booty call, or friends with benefits, scares many people. I know it scares me, or has scared me about a few things.

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First off, ┬áhaving multiple partners is something we’ve all (or most of us) been told is unhealthy and increases your risk of STD’s. This part is obvious. Yes, you can wear a condom, which reduces your risks, but there are many other orifices that STD’s can get transferred in. If you’re sexually active, regardless of how many partners you have, you should be responsible and get at least yearly blood tests done to make sure that you are clean. In most countries, these tests are administered by health clinics, and you just need to get an appointment from the Dr. to go. This is usually got from any drop in center.

Secondly, having somebody that you just call up for some lovin’, does that de-sensitizing people to the beauty of sex, or is it making them appreciate it much more? I am an advocate of love, free love for everyone, but does this also involve sex? I believe that love can be shown in more ways than just sex. So then, why is sex mounted on a pedestal, worshipped from afar?

Thirdly, don’t people say that sex changes everything? If you’re trying to stay friends, what will happen? Or does staying friends matter?

Fourthly, is it good? I know for myself, getting it on isn’t just about getting it on, it’s about that interaction, finding something in that other person, feeling something together that makes it so special. Epic if you will. If you’re just friends, how does that work? Does it feel special, or is it the same feeling you get after unplugging the toilet?

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Do you have some insight for me? Please do share with us in the comments section.

I, myself, am not oblivious to the fact that it could be a good thing, after all sometimes relieving stress, or having somebody to feel and help you balance life could be a great thing, couldn’t it? Sometimes life is just way to busy to start a relationship with somebody just to get those primal desires satisfied. I know as a fact that prostitution has been around for thousands of years, and will no doubt continue due to this very fact of non-committal.

I know that people say its good as long as you start off by making sure you’re both on the same page with it. Making sure that both people are aware that feelings shouldn’t be involved. Does this mean that nobody will get hurt? Or does this mean that it ends when somebody starts to feel more for the other person? I wonder how many couples can say they started off as a booty call, and then moved into a more deeper relationship? Does it last? I feel that most times out of ten, one or both of the people involved will become hurt, especially in the friends with benefits category.

So, I ask you again, how do you feel about a friends with benefits, or booty call? Is it something you have done, or will do again?