Category Archives: Success

Presenting With Your Best Foot

As much as we want to throw in the face of any nay-sayers that it’s not what’s on the cover, it’s what’s inside, there is no denying the simple fact that this just doesn’t have 100% validity.

Well, it does and it doesn’t.

You see, Impressions are.. a lot, but not everything.

[first] Impressions catch eyes, invite conversation, spread the word, approve, and in some ways validate. On the other hand, impressions can also discredit, dissuade, disapprove, or scare.

The thing that befuddles me the most, is when the opportunity to present that best foot presents itself, and the presenter is either not prepared or choosing to live by a different set of social dynamics.

It really is a choice, a game, for you to play your own unique way.

My advice is to be wary of how you want to play it.

I Am Your Market

Or am I your target? Or am I your audience? Or do I put my money where my mouth is?

Or do I distract you? Or am I just another voice looking for validation? Should I be heard?

We all have processeses, steps to life for life that have become familiar, that have begun to feel like they’re fairly necessary (especially marketing strategies).

Are they?

I would say it’s the wise person who is conscious not only of what they are doing (if you are doing it, make sure you’re doing it with a valiant effort) but why we are doing it.

Desire map, goal set, target alignment, reality check, take a step back and identify the filler.

It might be a nice step to become familiar with – if you are doing it, make sure you’re doing it with a valiant effort.

Mentally Tough and Small Discomforts

It’s easy to get lost. To start swimming with the overwhelming nature of more and more and more to do. More people want our attention. More articles to write. More service to provide. More hours at work…

Stress builds up inside us when we try to control our conquering path of each task with utmost attention. Is this necessary?

Perhaps accepting these small discomforts are out of our control (allowing our subordinates to do something without our hawk eyes constantly honed, for example) is a necessary step to conquer?

This initial discomfort slowly dwindles to a cautious reminder, a check point strategically placed to check in and ensure all is aligned as it should.

How do you remind yourself?

 

Of Course You Can[‘t] Copy

The thing is, you can’t copy others. Well, of course you can copy others, but what is the point in wasting your time copying others?

Inspiration, on the other hand, comes directly from others, comes from what you see around you, comes from… well, how do you find inspiration?

Take what you see and massage and meld it into a beast so uniquely yours that every time somebody looks at it they inherently know you as a being from what you’ve created.

By no means does this happen instantaneously. Even the Dalai Lama went through years of schooling to learn how to be a Dalai Lama. After years of being the Dalai Lama he understands what it means for him to be aligned with his true message.

A trick I learned many years ago for getting over that feeling of lost for a place to start, then sure, use the first sentence of a book you adore to use as your first sentence of a book you’re making. Sure, use the same curved line in your masterpiece as you see in your favorite masterpiece. I can guarantee that the true artist looking to express itself will take over very rapidly once that flow has begun.

The choice is up to you how radical you want to be.

Reflection and Mapping

Today is a day for reflection. Today I review my personal goals. I found an old Mission Statement and wrote: “stay sober (except in private)” which I find quite funny. It was under the section titled Keep Healthy. Not to worry, I don’t think I have a problem.

It’s so very interesting to identify how my direction and path have changed. For example, a big chunk of these has always been graduate from university: check.

Now what?

Find what I can learn from people (Why I love them)

To quote from my success factors from early 2009: “I will keep on trying hard, every single day. No matter what it takes, I will not give up. There will be times when I will feel overwhelmed with the tasks at hand, but I will always know that my best is the best I can do, and that I will always put forth my best effort so I will always be doing my best, which is all anybody can expect from me.”

Talking this over with a friend today, the idea of Desire Mapping came up, a slogan Danielle LaPorte uses for motivation. The concept is kind of self explanatory, but so diverse in execution.

How do you map out your desires, or do you just wing it?

Breaking the Norm[al] Process

Sure, breaking the normal can mean taking your coffee with a shot of peanut butter, or wearing your underwear on the outside of your pants, but perhaps it doesn’t have to be this drastic.

What if it’s just a tiny shift in thought?

Perhaps dynamically distributed computing power can teach us something here.

Can you imagine in grade school instead of fearing being the last one to finish, you feared not being able to uniquely contribute as much as you could to the group as a whole? If we were each encouraged to identify and bring forth our unique talents?

I bet this would easily eliminate almost all the High School graduates who say they still don’t know what they’re good at, or what they want to do.

I had a dream last night as I was walking in the night air.

It was a competition, but redefined. All the competitors were arranged into groups. They each had a challenge. The first group that finished then dispersed around the room and integrated into the other groups still working on their projects. This process repeated until everybody was done.

Can you imagine that?

Self vs. Image

I have recently had the pleasure of seeing a certain Rihanna x Damien Hirst x Mariano Vivanco image created for the 25th Anniversary of GQ magazine.

The image isn’t that graphic or overtly sexual or erotic, but… ok. I’ll just post the photo here cause we can all use a sexy babe holding a snake in our day.

Rihanna x Damien Hirst x Mariano Vivanco

There it is, that’s it. That’s the piece that’s led to my thoughts.

What we see is a singer holding a snake like it’s a carnal play-thing. The singer [Rihanna] is wearing heels and a very tiny thong, nothing else.

To be noted, it is for GQ magazine. Not a music mag, not a porno mag, but a pop culture male-directed magazine.

What does this represent, and should we [& Rihanna] be concerned about this.

To shift my thoughts to general, rather than specifically directed towards this photograph, I want to think about how society in general holds pop-icons as more than just icons.

I think it started when television started broadcasting behind the scenes, reality TV. I know for myself I was turned off when sports shows started interviewing the hockey players in the locker room. As a hockey player, that area was always an exclusive club, behind the scenes, secure area.

What we now have is an introspective view into these stars lives, a 24 hr hotline for all things [insert celebrity of the hour here]. But what is the meaning of this? Do I necessarily want to know about Rihannas private life, or do I just want to know when her next single is coming out? Do I want to know about Miley Cyrus doing semi-nude photographs with Terry Richardson, or do I want to hear how her vocal chord transitions from the lows to the highs?

But how is an icon an icon without having an image? They go hand in hand. Of course there are thousands – perhaps even millions – of people out there in the world that can sing like Miley or Rihanna, but they don’t have the image built up to put them onto that pedestal. They also don’t have the millions of backing, but that’s another can of worms.

So, we know image is important for pop stars. Frankly, image is important no matter what we are doing in life, this is why we wear ties to our interviews, and keep the fork on the left hand side of the plate. So what are the pop stars thinking about when they do nude-ish photographs like this? Is this for their own presentation of their image? For their fueling the scandal? For getting headlines? For keeping men tight in their pants?

This is the primary source of my confusion. How is it justified that this will help their career, and further, does it need to help their career?

Image is different than self. Authentic people try and align these two as closely as possible, but frequently there is a gap. People like Britney Spears, Rihanna, or MJ have become doubly famous for a bridge being built between this gap to reveal a not-so-pretty personal life.

So what is it? What does it mean?

Image is different than self. An image of a woman doesn’t tell you who she is. It shows you what her make-up-artist, photographer, re-toucher, wardrobe, and stylist have decided to show you, but it hardly goes much deeper. Sure some lifestyle photography can get close to true representation. Most photographs try to portray some type of image though, which any good art should try and do. Buying into this image is what sells. It sells Rihannas albums, it sells GQ & Bizarre Magazine, it sells tickets to Miley’s concerts [and probably her Hannah Montana products].

I keep thinking about some of the greatest stars who have been so stuck in their image that they can’t get out. Jimi Hendrix was working on breaking out of his image, as he began to feel people just came to see him play his guitar with his teeth. Snoop Doggy Dog has shifted to Snoop Dog, and then into Snoop Lion, and perhaps now just Snoop? It’s important for these stars to identify the fact that image is different than self, and that image is a tool they’re using to increase the love-ability of their product. Further, it is utterly important to realize that if it’s not working to change it. Scrap it, cut it up, delete it. Re-work. As Snoop has done fairly successfully.

Conclusion

Image is different than self. Bridges for this gap are necessary for authenticity but potentially very hazardous to sanity if image isn’t carefully crafted in the beginning. Image can become a horrible perpetual trap that can leave a star so stifled the whole point of an image becomes moot and useless.

Pick images wisely. Superstars don’t need to be naked. Coco Rocha doesn’t shoot nude, or any sort of implied [she makes photographers sign a contract with her that says so], yet she’s one of the most successful models out there today. Today, in a world where nudity seems to be as casual as an afternoon coffee.

There is an avenue for everybody, for all desires and fancies. If you want to craft your image in a thong, than flout that thong like it’s made of pure gold. If you want to pick an avenue that has skinny ties and tailored pants, then strut.

Most importantly, be aware that you do have an image and I advise you to take the necessary steps to align it with you and grow with it, otherwise you may be kissing fire to impress the faggots.

Living the life you want to live requires an alignment of heart, body, mind, and soul. A useful medium to incubate this alignment can be image, but mind the ego.

Utilizing Time Effectively

There are many times in life, I have observed, when time is not valued enough. In fact, take a moment right now to sit and wonder in amazement at the hours that have been wasted doing what would apparently seem like nothing. I know I have many. This is a shame.

I, by no means, am a perfect human being, but I can still try and instill some thoughts in your (and my) mind about how to use time wisely. It is something I enjoy studying, and actively attempt to capitalize on spare time, ignoring the impossibility of physically not being able to collect time itself to spare, much to my chagrin.

Let’s paint the background picture, as to why this topic has come to my attention.

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Yesterday I had the entire morning to do what I had to do, with no appointments and no pressing matters that immediately needed to be attended to, aside from my own objectives and goals that have piled high coming off the holiday season. So, logically one would think I would hunker down and battle away at the list, feeling a sense of pride and accomplishment as each task was erased from my omnipresent white board sitting beside my executive chair.

Instead, I found myself becoming entranced in the excitement of social media. I had recently been on a hiatus from social media during the holidays, as family time has more value to me due to its limited supply. In my rebuttal, I had a fairly interesting conversation that is and was important to me, that only a discussion with friends could calm my nerves. None-the-less, I was still commenting away on Twitter, watching short videos from Facebook, and browsing my stream on Tumblr for more tidbits of inspiration I could find.

So this hasn’t been all that big of a waste of time. I haven’t been sitting down to watch the last 4 seasons of The Hills that I’ve missed (I have no idea if such a show even ran for that long), and no, I wasn’t stalking old girlfriends party pictures on Facebook. I haven’t been reading a romance novel of a 7 part series, and I haven’t been napping on the sofa while a soap opera plays lifelessly in the background. If this is what you’re indeed doing, I mean not to offend you, only motivate. And, to make a point, reading is good! Keep reading. But, sometimes one reads to avoid life and responsibilities.

Further to this, I’ve spent more time wasted. A professor in a class I am attending today brought in a guest lecturer to discuss a topic related to the course. First off, the guest lecturer said the topics within the slides are very dry and that we, no doubt, had much more interesting things on our mind and that she would cut the lecture short. So, after waiting around for 4 hours for the lecture to start, I’m given a half-assed, glossed over lecture that lasts less than ½ the length it’s supposed to, after which I’m sent away to go about my other business.

Ok, so there could be worse things in the world than being sent away from a lecture early and having some extra free time to write this article, but the point I’m trying to make is that some people seem to value very little not only their time, but the time of others. When there is a scheduled, allotted, marked off and agreed upon time for a business meeting, lecture, ceremony, etc. fill it and carry on. The reason for having the time, for having a guideline, the reason for going through all the fuss to put such a thing on is to make it valuable for the people who take their time out to go to such a thing. Not to make them feel like the just sat in a room, made the arrangements to transport themselves there, prepared and listened… all for a bunch of hokey pokey, glossed over facts that were eventually left for the students to learn on their own in the future time when they deemed them necessary to read the slides provided.

To move on from my single example, I would like to place a few more notions in our heads as we walk away from these thoughts on time.

The more you try to put into time, the more you will get out of time. As with all tasks, when we keep doing them, day in and day out, we learn how to better focus our efforts. This allows us to keep very good track of our time needed, and to give a focused effort to ensure we don’t waste any time on the task at hand.

Doing something isn’t always as bad as it sounds. When the day is done, the examples I gave weren’t the worst things in the world. I have gotten out for some exercise, breathed fresh air and seen the life of day. I have tried something new, I have talked to people in the class, and I did listen to a condensed, glossed over summary of what I had hoped to learn.  I guess I had the opportunity to ask a industry professional.

Finally, The more that we as people are conscious of our time, the more we will value our time. By this plain fact alone, we will begin to observe, within our own life patterns, things that we do waste our time on. This is probably the single most valuable thing that a person can learn about time. When one begins to understand this, they may even start to understand the power of saying “No” to wastes of time.

Make your life efficient, for it will clear your mind.

Success In Business

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I’ve just finished reading the article titled “What I Have Learned in My First 10 Years Running a Successful Business” by Patrick Gant, where he talks, fairly clearly, in point form about a lot of lessons that he has learned along the way. Reading this inspired me, and made me reflect on my own direction, goals, and lessons, which I will try and relate to you today.

One of the biggest things Gant talks about is the battle with fear. Some people, we all know, are weakened by fear, hiding in a comfy spot as fear dictates the next moves made. While others seem to battle this fear and thrive in it, performing feats that to the fearful seem rather unbelievable. Being aware of this fear, and running into this fear head on is something that gives countless opportunities to those who battle it, this battle should always be contemplated upon.

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For myself, when I’m pursuing my practice or craft, I often find I seek out advice from people who are seasoned in the field and have learned a lot of lessons ahead of me. Furthermore, people usually like to tell stories if they are passionate about what they do, and they will remember you with kind thoughts about how you connected with them. This is also a tactic I take when networking. When I talk to somebody I’ve just met, and they tell me a thing or two about themselves, I find it really easy to immediately dive into something that they do and ask questions. There really is not one aspect of anybodies life that doesn’t interest me, but what is essential to learn is that not everybody likes to talk about everything in their life. Usually it can be seen in their eyes and body language the passion that person has for what you’re talking about.

Ideas about furthering my success in business or hobbies can come at any time for me. We’ve all heard about the idea coming to a person in the shower or on the toilet, but it can also come on a hike, watching a soccer match, at a bar with a friend, et al., but the point is: always be ready for it. Have something with you at all times to record the idea, in as great a detail as you can afford at that time. Honestly, if I’m sitting at a bar with friends and somebody has a great idea and can’t wait to write it down on their computer, which for the next 3 minutes I have to sit looking at them as they scribble furiously on their notepad, I’m excited by this. I find it really handy to use the notes part of my phone to record these moments of inspiration, but I always carry a blank notepad with me too.

The easy way is not the easy way, and it’s the way it’s always been. People will try and tell you how to what you’re doing wrong, and if you change it it’ll be so easy, which may not be a bad thing to listen to, but often times, it might not be a good solution. For me, I find that the factor that is easiest to identify, is if the correction to what you’re doing wrong requires you to buy something similar to what you already have, the solution to the problem isn’t the right one. Often times the answer is simplifying, not compounding your business practice. Slimming, I’ve found, is a much better practice than bloating. The people that are truly successful will often to appear to have that success fairly easily, but further studies will show that they have put many years of practice into what they do to reach the level of success they are at. Although each individual task may seem rather simple, they most likely will have years of experience to base their quick judgments on, learning from the past to project into the future.

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We all deal with customers. There are good customers and bad ones. Though we should always treat the customer with respect, and honesty, we should remember who the good ones are and the bad ones are, and meld our practices to better suit the good ones. The ironic thing about this is that the bad customers are usually the ones that are the squeakiest ones, and you spend most time dealing with. Remember to assess how crucial the squeaky wheel is to your business, and act accordingly. Also, treat the good customers with courtesy and respect, and show them you care. Sending them thank you cards, or other random gifts, deals and promotions, or just dedicating your time to them, can go a long way. If I walk into a place of business and the owner takes time out to come and say hi to me and ask if everything is in order, I remember this; I come back for more.

Furthermore, learn from bad business practices. If you have a great friend who you went into business with, and that fell through, or the deal went sour, it is ok to forgive the person personally, but making that bad business decision again and doing business with them again is just plain silly. Contrary, remember whose deals were successful, it’s good to deal with them again, and very beneficial to seek their advice in the future.

Thought tedious, get everything in writing. Business transactions, sales, ideas, projections; they will all help you in the future when reflecting upon these documents is crucial such as legal battles, or reflecting on the past. I personally appreciate the compactness of digital documents, but everybody loves to feel hard copies, as well as digital signatures can get tricky.

Learn from other professions. If you’re trying to see how you can better your business in sales, go to a place of business where sales is essentially their biggest asset, like a restaurant. If you’re trying to find ways to slimming your business down, try studying how large corporations make cutbacks. Being able to learn from everything in the environment and applying it to every aspect of life is very beneficial for anybody who can master this. Leaders do this best.

Don’t be cheap on things that are essential factors to your business that you use everyday. A company that uses a photocopier every day all day shouldn’t replace ones that break down often. Employees who sit in chairs all day long shouldn’t be forced to sit in uncomfortable chairs. If you drive around all day long, buy a vehicle that is good on gas, and not prone to failure. Buy the better pens to write with. This falls into the category of treating your employees with respect and courtesy. It’s very surprising to learn how efficient employees can be if you give them a little respect and reason to feel that they are respected within the company.

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Using just a few of these tips will reward most people. I’m sure that many readers are already practicing some of these already, as you’re proactive and seeking to practice better tactics in your business. After reading something the article mentioned at the start by Gant, I have many ideas floating through my head that need to be collected in writing right away. So, this is a very good time to open up your mission statement, and adjust it as fit.

Good luck out there!

Personal Mission Statement

Creating a personal mission statement is probably the most effective long term focus machine you can build for yourself that directs you towards success and growth. It allows for you to stay focused, and remind yourself periodically (when you’re most in need) on what you want to stay focused on.

So, to start I brainstorm what it is that I want to accomplish, what are my goals. Take a moment to read about how to set effective goals, but this process of writing the mission statement will also focus your goals allowing you to then find more ‘WOW’ goals. This is critical to keeping yourself motivated and directed towards them.

After you have written down your goals, break them down into sub goals, either point form or get right to sentences about how you’re going to achieve these goals. Think about what specific activities you have to focus on in order to achieve them, like lift weights for 20 minutes a day, read a book for 30 min before bed every night, etc. This way you have a specific goal that doesn’t leave much up for interpretation.diving turtle_0

I also like to keep my mission statement tidy. I organize it like a formal report, with a table of contents, and headings, even including a title page, although the content is very personal and not necessarily formal. I like to keep it in a way that it will not be boring for me to read. I will even insert some funny jokes or slang so next time I read it I will be in a good mood.

I find that referring to this personal mission statement on a at least quarterly basis is extremely beneficial for myself. It helps remind me of what I’m focused on, and it also helps me to see what I was aimed at then, and how it has changed now. I am never afraid of editing the document. I may see spelling or grammar, but I will also see things that have changed, and I alter them in the mission statement.

archives_0I keep remembering a quote from Gandhi, where he says: “If there is an instance where I have been strongly for a certain topic, and later I learn that the knowledge that I was basing my stance on wasn’t in fact true, or has become more learned, then I will be the first to admit I was wrong, and immediately change my position on the subject.” This is just common sense to me!

Mahatma_GandhiDo you have another way that you use to help you stay focused on your goals? I’d love to hear about them.